Saturday, January 14 2017
2:30pm - 5:30pm

Speed Dating/Friending

Date & Time: Saturday, January 14, 2017 · 2:30 PM – 5:00 PM

Location: SF Citadel
181 Eddy St, San Francisco

Cost: $10 for members. $15 all others

Dress code: Whatever Makes Your Feel Good

Is your New Year’s Resolution to meet new people? Make new friends? Find a new partner? Come to our Speed Dating/Friending event and we’ll try to help you with that!

How will it work?

When you arrive, you will be given a numbered Name Tag, a Clipboard, a Pen or Pencil, a Questionnaire, and some Matching Sheets.

Fill out the Questionnaire about yourself and write your preferred name on your Name Tag. Keep the Questionnaire with you and put on your Name Tag.

Take your clipboard and go talk to some people! Anyone, anyone at all! Introduce yourself and get to filling out that Matching Sheet! The more people you talk to, the more people you might match with. If you complete one sheet, you can get another.

Every 5 minutes, your facilitators will encourage you to move to a new location, join a new activity, and/or talk to someone new.

When you leave the event, you will turn in your Questionnaire and Matching Sheet(s) to the front desk.

We’ll match people and share contact information between matches within the following couple of days.

We’ll have ice breakers, games, and light refreshments to keep the mingling going.


What will the Questionnaire Ask? Answer: Basic biographical information like your (preferred) name, gender, preferred relationship style (monogamous, nonmonogamous, polyamorous, open relationship, swinger, etc), kink identity/role (Master/Mistress, Dom/me, Top, bottom, submissive, slave, switch, sadist, masochist, Daddy, Mommy, little girl, little boy, rigger, pet, etc.), favorite platonic activities, favorite date activities, favorite kink activities. If you think about these questions beforehand, even write your answers down, it will save you time.

How will I fill out the Matching Sheet? Answer: You will write down your name and Name Tag number on the top of each Sheet. Below this, you will fill out one form line for each person you talk to. You will write the person’s name, Name Tag number, and any notes you want to take during your conversation. You will also indicate if you are interested in this person as a friend, a partner, both, or neither.


Not sure if you want to come into San Francisco just for a mid-afternoon event?

Grab lunch at the The San Francisco Munch - Hosted by SoJ at The Thirsty Bear from 12-2pm

Maybe check out a party later on that evening. For female-identified folks, there is CRAVE, an inclusive women’s party at the Citadel.

About The Society of Janus

The Society of Janus is a not-for-profit, all volunteer, San Francisco-based education and support organization devoted to the art of hot, safe, consensual and non-exploitative BDSM.

Janus provides an opportunity to meet others with similar interests in a safe, relaxed atmosphere. Janus is an organization open to persons of all genders, sexual orientations, roles, and experience levels. Janus also provides a chance to get involved with the greater SF Bay Area BDSM community.

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