Friday, November 15 2019
7:30pm - 10:30pm

The Exiles November Program

The Exiles November Program: Sensuous Singletails with Ms. WillowKat

This class uses the singletail whip as an instrument of intimacy and connection. The unique sensation of the whip stroke as opposed to any other kind of impact play will be explored through lecture, demo, and hands-on practice. We will demystify the singletail and introduce a gentle framework for its use, particularly for those who have had previous negative experiences. We will focus on the non-verbal communication and hands on technique for sensuous whipping. Instructions for making crackers will be provided.

About our Presenter

Ms. WillowKat (pronouns zie/zir) is an Ethical Slut Presents; Navigating Consent classes co-creator and lead facilitator working with Dossie Easton. Zie is a trained Alive Program facilitator and has facilitated the topsalive workgroup from its inception. As Pacific Coast and International Power Exchange 2015 title holder, as part of a triad, Ms. WillowKat has presented at numerous conferences and educational programs such as Lupercalia, Leather Quest, IMsLBB, and Dark Odyssey on subjects including healthy communication, consent, power exchange, polyamory, and the sensual and healing power of the whip. Ms. WillowKat brings zir creative passion for healing to zir endeavors as an experienced Pro Dom, shamanic priestess, Master, Radical Rehab kinky caregiver, and death doula. Nicknamed “the Hurricane,” zie is known for zir dynamic style of teaching, performing, and holding ritual space. Zie is skilled at nurturing and comforting those in need, and believes deeply in fostering a sex-positive, nonviolent consent culture based on relationships of true equality. Ms. WillowKat heads a growing leather family and holds membership in several others. Zir passions include painting, teaching, writing, ritual, D/s, sex magic, and BDSM edge play. Her singletail skill is grace personified. For more information visit and

Note: We have been informed that the ramp, which makes Catalyst accessible for those who can't use the stairs, will not be available for the foreseeable future. We are committed to accessibility for all of our events, so we are actively looking for an alternative venue. Please contact us if you have any ideas. In the meantime, we sincerely apologize for this.

ASL interpretation available on request. Please contact the co-coordinators at cocos (at) theexiles (dot) org at least a week in advance if you need an ASL interpreter, and one will be provided.

The program runs from 8:00 to about 10:15pm. with socializing at 7:30.


We are looking for awesome volunteers to help with set up, clean up, stage kittens, raffle hunnies, and doorkeepers! Please email if you would like to volunteer for this event!

About Us:

The Exiles are a 501(c)3 non-profit educational group for ALL women (trans & cis), butches and femmes alike, NB+GQ/fluid folx (who feel their space is in the leatherwomen/leatherdyke community) who are 18 years of age and older who have a positive personal interest in BDSM. The group provides educational events where folks with all levels of experience will have a safe place to meet, explore and share information about safety, play techniques and resources, and connect with the leather community locally and nationally.

What we offer!:
Monthly educational programs - 3rd Friday of the month
Monthly munch - 1st Wednesday of the month
Monthly Biz meetings - 1st Sunday of the month
Quarterly play parties!
Prime cruising!
Leather Alley, Dore Alley, Folsom admission and shenanigans!
And so much more!

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