Saturday, January 23 2021
8:00pm - 12:00pm

Goodbye 2020 Virtual Play Party

2020 is finally behind us, and we want to celebrate together as we look forward to a hopefully much better year ahead. We are still in the throes of the pandemic, so we will have this celebration virtually on Discord on Saturday, January 23, 2021.

Hop onto a video chat channel to socialize. Play with a partner or watch scenes in a video play room. Post in one of the text channels to share erotica or memes, introduce yourself, link to some of your favorite music to get kinky to, or let us know what you are looking forward to when in-real-life events finally come back. THIS IS A FREE EVENT

You can join our discord server by following this link:

Make sure you have downloaded discord onto your computer or mobile device, and make an account. When you join the server, you will be put into the reception channel where you must agree to the posted rules to access all the other channels. Party specific channels will be visible on the day of the party.

We canít wait until we can see you all in person, but are looking forward to seeing you online until then. Before and after the party, the discord server is perpetually running and there for you to interact with people.

Itís also where we host our monthly virtual San Francisco munch, weekly socials, and random conversations. See everyone there.

Rules: The NSFW and SFW channels are open to everyone or specific people on the server. Read the pinned message at the top of some channels for more details about that particular channel.


  1. Consent is mandatory in all SoJ settings including online interactions. YOU MAY ONLY DIRECT MESSAGE SOMEONE AFTER THEY HAVE GIVEN PUBLIC PERMISSION SO ADMIN CAN SEE IT.
    Messaging someone from this group without permission will get you removed immediately.
    REPORTING If you need to report an incident or concern please contact any Mod or Officer directly. Itís confidential.
  2. Participation in this server comes with an expectation of behavior - including use of inclusive language. Being respectful of differences in opinion/preferences & refraining from engaging in trolling, harassment, or other abusive behaviors. Check these out for more details and examples:
  3. Respect pronouns, presentations, & identities. Ask first If you're not sure!
  4. Server members here should aim for clear communication - keep in mind text does not always transmit emotion or intent. We encourage you to ask for clarification to prevent miscommunications.
  5. Do not save or share someone's personal/identifying photos, screen shots containing identifying/personal info, or other personal details without explicit permission to do so. The exception is if it's only info pertinent to the reporting of incident reports or relevant internal investigations pertaining to member safety.
  6. Keep NSFW (not safe for work) topics & images in channels marked NSFW.
  7. This server should not be treated as a meat market, fetish vending machine, or hunting ground. SoJ Members are welcome to post personals & seeking ads in the members only section.
    • Must not be porn. (Selfie smut is ok.)
    • Must not contain images of minors.
    • Must not be promoting any kind of hate.
    • Please keep BDSM posts and pictures to NSFW channels.
    • You may NOT save, screenshot, keep or otherwise distribute any pictures in any channel without public permission from the poster of the picture.
    • Post no pictures of others without their consent, sexual or otherwise.

The Moderators and Officers reserve the right to delete posts and pictures at-will. Screenshots will be held for our records. Disregarding these rules may lead to you being temporarily or permanently removed from this server and/or restriction from participating in other SoJ settings.

If you do not agree to these rules, please leave the server.

About Society of Janus

Society of Janus is and has always been an organization made up of the community and in service to the community. We are stronger for our diversity, including adults of all genders, orientations, colors, ethnicities, roles, and experience levels. We welcome all who have a genuine interest in kink and who respect each other's rights to self-expression, self-exploration, and authenticity. At each and every one of our events, we will strive to maintain and enforce a respectful and safe space for all attendees in celebration of this diversity, and expect the same of all attendees.

Read our consent and harassment guidelines at

The Society of Janus is a not-for-profit, all volunteer, San Francisco-based education and support organization devoted to the art of hot, consensual and non-exploitative BDSM.

Janus provides an opportunity to meet others with similar interests in a safe, relaxed atmosphere. Society of Janus is open to people of all genders, sexual orientations, roles, and experience levels. Janus members are from all over the SF Bay Area. We host and sponsor events in many locations around the bay.

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